Tom was having the most difficult time discussing assisted living with his 82-year-old father. Widowed and having lived alone for more than three years, Tom’s father was really showing signs of struggling lately. Tom began spending more and more of his free time stopping by to help out, check on him, and it was getting frustrating. Tom never planned on becoming a full-time caregiver, and he simply didn’t want this to continue.
“I just want him to be safe,” he confided in his wife one evening. That’s when she mentioned assisted living.
When Tom began talking about assisted living, his father dismissed it out right. “I’m not going to an old folks’ home,” is basically what he said. This frustrated time and it began a pattern of animosity and even hostility between the two in the weeks and months that followed.
What Tom didn’t understand was there could be numerous reasons seniors don’t want to discuss assisted living. Some of them can be legitimate and others can seem to be completely fabricated or unreasonable. Below are three common reasons why some aging men and women just don’t want to talk about this important topic.
One. They deny their own abilities (or inabilities).
As you’ve gotten older, how quickly have you come to the realization you simply can’t do the same things you were able to in your 20s or 30s? Most of us have a difficult time with reality in this respect. Even somebody in their 70s or 80s may still feel like they can do the things that were easy in their 50s or 60s, though they simply can’t.
Until a person accepts the new reality in which they live, it might be difficult to talk about an important topic such as assisted living.
Two. Misconceptions.
There are numerous misconceptions about assisted living out there. Far too many people immediately associate this type of facility with a nursing home. The two are completely different at assisted living actually offers a higher quality of life for many of its residents then living in their own apartment or house by themselves.
Three. Concerns about the cost.
Nursing home care is more expensive than assisted living, on average. However, many seniors and even their families simply assume assisted living is too costly to even consider. In truth, when the benefits, safety, activities, and even dining options are calculated in, assisted living is a reasonable option for many seniors.
If Tom had understood these key issues, he may have had an easier time discussing assisted living with his aging father.
If you or an aging loved one are considering Assisted Living Pascagoula, AL, contact Ashbury Manor Specialty Care and Assisted Living at 251-317-3017.
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