To advocate for somebody is to speak up on their behalf. There are many people all across the country who have difficulty advocating for themselves and rely on family, friends, and even others for support and assistance. When somebody moves into an assisted living facility, they have chosen a comfortable environment that provides a great deal of support when needed.
Sometimes, though, seniors do need advocates.
Your mother might be in that type of situation right now. She may have chosen an assisted living facility in her own neighborhood because she knew some other friends were living there. Perhaps you wanted her to consider moving closer to you so you could check on her more frequently, but you respect her decision. After all, the longer people live in a particular community, the more entrenched they become and it’s also that much more difficult to uproot and start over somewhere else.
Your mother, though, has a lot of questions.
You went on a tour of the facility with her. You were both impressed by the rooms, the support that staff offered, the dining facility, entertainment, activities, transportation options, and so much more. You didn’t ask a lot of questions then, but now that your mother has spent a few weeks there, she has questions that can be disguised as concerns.
She feels that no one is advocating for her.
Maybe she’s complaining about the menu options down in the restaurant. Perhaps she doesn’t know much about the activities that take place daily. She might be extremely shy and have a difficult time speaking up and asking questions.
The longer she spends there, though, the more likely she will become comfortable with at least a few staff members and that’s a great way to help her learn more about what this facility offers.
In the meantime, can you advocate for her?
Of course you can. At the same time, an assisted living community may limit how much information they are willing to share with others, even if it is a family member of a resident. They would need to have your mother authorize you to speak on her behalf.
You can ask questions, though, about activities, entertainment, movie choices, how your mother can get out and go for a walk safely or get to the mall for a couple of hours, and so on.
Just because you may not live close to her doesn’t mean you can’t help her. Assisted living provides the best of many aspects of life for seniors, but some elderly men and women might have trouble speaking up and a quality assisted living community wants its residents to feel at ease.
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